“The sex and relationships of your dreams”
starts with knowing what you actually want.
You feel like parts of your life were decided for you. It doesn’t have to stay that way.
You say sorry when someone bumps into you.
You defer to someone else about what you want for dinner.
You don't send the food back.
None of it seems like a big deal. That's exactly the point.
The work I do with people starts that small. Actually tuning in, so you can know what you want in order to create it.
If this sounds familiar, it’s because moments like this show up everywhere. Here’s what it looks like when people finally come find me:
Highly therapized couples having the same fight for ten years
Women who keep choosing the same person with a different face
Partners who want to open their relationship without burning it down
People raised with religious upbringings who can’t shake the shame
Partners who can’t make any sense of their sex life
Polycules reenacting old family dynamics they were trying to escape
Parents who don’t know how to be both a parent and a person
Men who don’t know how to be authentic without being “toxic”
People who can be honest with everyone except the person they love the most
Now, your life is about managing that one issue plus everything else. And you’ve learned to carry all of it so well that now it just feels like you.
So, of course you’re tired. Not dramatically. Just this low hum underneath everything, this not-quite-full exhale, this sense that you're always one obligation away from the moment when you finally get to rest.
And that moment never seems to come.
You make do. You survive. You perform the right version of yourself so consistently that the unperformed one has gone quiet.
Did you forget yourself? Or did you never really know?
Everything you’re feeling - stuck, lost, overwhelmed, exhausted, guilty, just fucking sick of it - you were set up to feel that. You’re right to feel it, and it didn’t start with you. Learn more about me and my values here.