Different relationships, different fights, different heartbreaks.
Same story holding all of it in place.
I help you rewrite the story.
Most approaches to personal development ask you to fight your patterns. Redirect your energy. Stop doing that. Think differently. Be better.
That's not how I work.
Yes, I'm interested in the things that keep showing up in your life: the same arguments, the same shutdown, the choice you swore you wouldn't make again. But I’m curious about why. That pattern is there for a reason. I know it feels like proof that you're broken or weak or beyond help. But it's actually your body and nervous system doing exactly what it learned to do to keep you safe.
You're not a dummy.You're wired this way.
So instead of fighting it, we examine the resistance. What does that part of you actually want? What is it protecting? What would have to be true for it to finally stand down?
That's where the real shit is. Your body knows the answers your brain has been looking for everywhere other than within.
The modalities I incorporate into my coaching all serve to reconnect mind and body: somatic coaching, Internal Family Systems, nervous system regulation. If you're here, I'm sure you know that insight alone doesn't change anything. You can know exactly why you do something and still do it.
The body is where the patterns live. That's where we go
Not as a reward for doing the work. As the work itself.
It's not. Pleasure, being able to slow down and savor something, is how your nervous system knows you're safe. It's how you learn that good things are allowed to belong to you. Centering what feels good is how you change.
A lot of people notice it first in their sex life. The shutdown, the disconnection, the gap between what they want and what they let themselves have. You think it's a problem with your sex life, but it's just a pattern showing up where it's hardest to ignore. So if that's where you're feeling it, that's where we start.
Ways to Work
with Me
1:1 Coaching
You came to this page for a reason. You know you want to shift something, and the first step in making that shift is finding out if I’m the person to support you on this leg of your journey.
Whether you’re looking for yourself, or for you and your partner or polycule, it all starts with a conversation. Explore more of what I do with my clients here.
The Fiddlehead Collective
As a relational coach, group work is central to the work I do because we heal in relationships. We heal in community.
It can feel really high-stakes to try all of your new tools and skills in your most important relationships. This is a place where you can practice with real people who want you to nail it when you do it in the wild.